My Hopes for my Daughter

Though she is just an infant, like most parents, I have hopes and dreams for my daughter.  While I am trying my best to make a good life for her and to expose her to culture, diversity, and the arts, I hope to help her reach her full potential and revel in the simple things.  I want the best for her and for her life to be full and happy.  I want her childhood to be magical, not filled with constant fear.  I want her to feel free to express herself and most importantly, to be herself.  I want her to not be afraid letting the world know who she is in love with, no matter their gender, color, or ethnicity.  I want her to have choices when it comes to her health and well-being.  I want her to know it’s ok if she is unsure about her gender.  I want her to grow up respecting the planet and the plants, animals, and people living on it.  I want her to know we are all one in the same and to not let hate fester in her heart.  I want her to have the freedom to follow her personal spiritual journey and to not feel coerced into a specific belief.  I want her to be strong and independent, and to stand up for what she believes in.

As a side note – I know where I personally stand on political, social, and religious issues, and my intent is not to shove my beliefs down someone else’s throat.  The U.S. is a free country, and with that, we have the freedom to have our own thoughts and feelings, ideas and choices.  However, I do find it deeply disturbing what is going on all over the world today.  I can’t sit back and pretend I am not bothered by reports of animal abuse, hate crimes and hate speech, different groups of people living in fear, being marginalized, profiled, and shunned because of their color, ethnicity, or identity, and people passing judgement because someone goes against what they deem as ‘normal’ and/or ‘right.’  At the end of the day, we all share this planet.  At the beginning of every day, we have an opportunity – an opportunity to do good, to care about others and not just ourselves, to learn and become educated about topics that make us uncomfortable, to remember history and work to not allow it to repeat itself, to realize we don’t know the struggles someone else is facing, and to simply be nice to one another.

~LadyDom13

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“Follow the voice of your heart, even if it leads you off the path of timid souls. Do not become hard and embittered, even if life tortures you at times. There is only one thing that counts: to live one’s life well and happily… ”

~Wilhelm Reich, 24 March 1897 – 3 November 1957

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Today’s press conference in Helsinki was one of the most disgraceful performances by an American president in memory. The damage inflicted by President Trump’s naiveté, egotism, false equivalence, and sympathy for autocrats is difficult to calculate. … President Trump proved not only unable, but unwilling to stand up to Putin. He and Putin seemed to be speaking from the same script as the president made a conscious choice to defend a tyrant against the fair questions of a free press, and to grant Putin an uncontested platform to spew propaganda and lies to the world. … No prior president has ever abased himself more abjectly before a tyrant. Not only did President Trump fail to speak the truth about an adversary; but speaking for America to the world, our president failed to defend all that makes us who we are — a republic of free people dedicated to the cause of liberty at home and abroad. American presidents must be the champions of that cause if it is to succeed. Americans are waiting and hoping for President Trump to embrace that sacred responsibility. One can only hope they are not waiting totally in vain.”

~John McCain, U.S. Senator

Sobriety and Friday the 13th

I have always loved Friday the 13th, but it also holds an extra special place in my heart for a reason other than the obvious (horror movies, superstition, etc.).  Exactly six years ago today, and also on a Friday the 13th, I checked into detox, and thus began my journey into sobriety.  Although horribly drunk at the time, I can remember that day and evening so clearly, as though it was yesterday.  I cried a lot, I spent time on the floor during intake because I was dizzy and thought I would puke, I laughed at ridiculous things, and most of all, I was terrified.  Terrified of how I would figure out how to live without alcohol.  You see, even though I was beyond my bottom at that point and desperately wanted to get sober, I had spent so much of my adult life in an altered state, I didn’t know how I was going to handle even the simplest things.  But, through tons of hard work, self-searching, tears, and painful truths, not only did I sober up, I have managed to stay sober.  I am so grateful to my supportive family and to even be here today.  Many wonderful things have happened in my life over the past six years and I feel I have grown a lot as a person.  Quite a few difficult things have happened as well, and thanks to the tools I learned from the wonderful people of AA, I got through.  Life requires us to constantly evaluate and work on ourselves, and I am blessed to be granted a second life in order to continue on this journey.

Happy Friday the 13th everyone!

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“In that direction,” the Cat said, waving its right paw round, “lives a Hatter: and in that direction,” waving the other paw, “lives a March Hare.  Visit either you like: they’re both mad.”
“But I don’t want to go among mad people,” Alice remarked.
“Oh, you can’t help that,” said the Cat: “we’re all mad here.  I’m mad.  You’re mad.”
“How do you know I’m mad?” said Alice.
“You must be,” said the Cat, “or you wouldn’t have come here.”

~Lewis Carroll (Charles Lutwidge Dodgson), 27 January 1832 – 14 January 1898; from Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, chapter VI Pig and Pepper

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“The Constitution… Its language is ‘we the people’.  Not we the white people, not even we the citizens, not we the privileged class, not we the high, not we the low, but we the people.  Not we the horses, sheep, and swine, and wheel-barrows, but we the people, we the human inhabitants…”

~Frederick Douglass, 1818 – 1895

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“It takes no compromise to give people their rights…it takes no money to respect the individual.  It takes no political deal to give people freedom.  It takes no survey to remove repression.”

“All men are created equal.  Now matter how hard they try, they can never erase those words.  That is what America is about.”

“Hope will never be silent.”

~Harvey Milk, May 22, 1930 – November 27, 1978